What the 13th anniversary symbolises
Lace is intricate by design. Thirteen years of marriage have built that intricacy in. The modern textiles-and-furs alternate gives the gift room to range from delicate to dramatic.
The historical record
Lace appears at year 13 in the 1937 American codification. The textiles-furs modern alternate is a 1948 Marek expansion. Citrine the gemstone, placed in 1957, was chosen for its golden warmth against the lace tradition.
Quick picks for the 13th anniversary
Three picks across the categories most often given. Jewellery for the gemstone match, an experience for the partner who already has things, and a practical gift that respects the traditional symbol.
Gemstone-anchored to the Citrine designation.
Memory-anchored. The gift becomes the photograph.
Anchored to the traditional gift category.
Where to buy 13th-anniversary gifts
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Frequently asked questions
What is the 13th anniversary gift?
The traditional 13th anniversary gift is Lace. The modern alternate is Textiles and furs. The associated gemstone is Citrine.
What is the traditional 13th anniversary symbol?
Lace. This entry comes from the 1937 Anniversary Books Bureau codification of the wedding-anniversary gift list, adopted by Emily Post and carried into every major published list since.
What is the modern 13th anniversary gift?
Textiles and furs. The modern alternate list was published in 1948 by Chicago jeweler Helen Marek, updating the traditional list with more practical and contemporary categories.
What gemstone is associated with the 13th anniversary?
Citrine. Gemstone designations follow the 1957 American Gem Society standard.
Why is Lace the 13th anniversary gift?
Lace is intricate by design. Thirteen years of marriage have built that intricacy in. The modern textiles-and-furs alternate gives the gift room to range from delicate to dramatic.